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Essential Speaking Skills
All about the art of public speaking.

Chapter 6 : Goal Setting

There are many things that you will do to assure that you get your goals rather than just set them. First you will be in a state that IS conducive to choosing your goals. Then you'll find out if the goal you've chosen 15 something that you really want. If it Is something you really want, then you'll need to have some idea of how to achieve it. After that you just need to know how to really motivate yourself and get rid of anything that stood in the way.
Here are the steps you can follow to do all of these things.

Step 1 – A really compelling state
First we're going to build in a really compelling designer state that you want to be in when you choose your goals. There are many states you can choose from to build one that Is juicy enough. Here are a few:
Confident, Competent, Relaxed
Creative, Playful, Intuitive
Healthy, Wonderful, Open
Centred, Powerful, Lucky

The way we'll build this state 15 to anchor each state on a finger of your hand using a sliding anchor. Then you will side all the anchors together and anchor the new state in, in a way which Is easily accessible. It can be anything from a tug on the ear to a voice that you will hear inside your head.

Step 2 - Compelling Voices
Now you want to have some really motivating voices. Think of a time when you were really motivated to do something. Notice anything that you might have said to yourself that motivated you. Notice where the voice comes from. Say it to someone the way it sounds with the same volume, pitch, inflection, etc. Have the person stand where the voice comes from and say it from there Make any adjustments in the sound of the voice, the direction, the distance, etc. If there’s nobody to help you, just imagine the voice. Anchor the way you feel when you hear this voice.

Step 3 – Moving your timeline
A timeline Is the way a person spatially represents the pictures of the events in his life. Understand that it's not the significance of the event, but it's when it happened. One of the best ways to organize the timeline is to have the past off to your left and just slightly behind you, so you can turn your head to look at it. The present is inside your head. The timeline is in front of you and just slightly off to the right. As one student aptly put it,
The past Is left behind, and the future is right ahead.
Then once you’ve organized it this way, you want to have the future get bigger as it goes along and angle slightly upward. You might also want to add a little colour and brightness to the future. Play with it to see what works best.



Step 4 Put Your Goal on Your Timeline
There are many steps to this. First 15 to walk down your timeline until you reach the goal. See how everything looks from here. Hear all the sounds. Feel the differences in your body. Notice how your family relates with you. See how it fits in with other parts of your life. What else Is different? Do you still want it?

Now, make any necessary adjustments to your outcome.
Now you need to check a few things. Ask yourself, 15 this possible? Do I deserve this? Am I capable of this?
Notice if there were any voices which might not be the most useful.
(if there Is an objection you might want to stop and take care of it before you proceed.)

Next you turn around to notice all the steps you took to get there. Maybe some won't be completely clear yet, but you will at least see the first two or three things you need to do to get there. Turn back around and take enough steps into the future to be sure that you want to live with the results of this goal after you've achieved it.

Assuming that you still want this goal, turn back around and go to where you've just reached the goal. Now, anchor of the feeling of reaching this goal, and as you continue to hold onto this anchor walk back to the present taking just a little of this feeling back with you. This way you can remember how it feels and be motivated to get more of that feeling.
Now look into the future and lire off the anchor of how it feels to reach your goal, and then lire off the anchor for that really motivating voice.


Step 5- Get Rid of Objections
This Is for the people who didn't feel that they deserved it, were capable, or it was possible. First make sure that this Is something you want to happen, not just something that 15 possible. Then think of something that you believe will probably happen. Notice where the picture Is. Then notice where the picture of your goal 15. Now attach a rubber band to the picture of your goal and shoot it off to the horizon, and notice it snap back into the place of what you believe will probably happen. Do this five times, so it will stick.

If it doesn't go that easily, you might try moving to the place of possibility before you move it to the place of probability. Some things you might want in the place of what you absolutely believe to be true and some might only belong in the place of possibility, so think about how important you want reaching each goal to be.

Now, for the people who had unwanted voices. I want you to dose your eyes and hallucinate out in front of you the knob that controls the volume of the voices that you're getting rid of Reach out and grab the knob and turn the voices down. If the voices won't stay quiet, hallucinate another knob that makes it sound like Mickey Mouse first, then turn down the volume of the voice.



Step 6- More Motivation
Certain words are more motivating to people than others. Which ones are the most motivating vary from person to person. Look at this list of words and imagine a line on the floor that goes out in front of and behind you. Notice whether each of these words would propel you forward, not motivate you to move at all, or actually make you want to move backwards along this line.

  • Wish
  • Can
  • Going to
  • Like
  • Have to
  • Should
  • Want
  • Must
  • Need
  • Will
Find one that Is appropriately motivating for this goal. What I mean by appropriate Is that if you would go to the ends of the earth for something that you "need" or "love", then it might be a little bit too strong for most goals. Then look down the line and slide the picture of your goal into the place of where the appropriate word propelled you to on the line.

Step 7 – More Compelling Timelines
You can also make your timeline like different things in the world. Here are a few to try.
A river flowing through you. This would bring things that you want to you effortlessly, and leave the past behind you. You in a kayak or canoe floating downstream. You can paddle to get places faster or use the oars to slow things down. There are branches in the river where you can choose your direction, and lots of tributaries so it gets bigger as you go along.

There Is always a vast ocean of possibilities ahead of you. A beam of light.


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